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097: Leap to Live the Life You Want with Antesa Jensen

Nov 14, 2017

I’m very happy to have you here with my guest star, Antesa Jensen of Adventure Awake who takes people out of their comfort zone, out of their physical comfort zone into places like Mongolia, Greenland, crazy places to find those deeper parts of yourself that you want to let go. We talked about her experience and what she offers and some more stories from her groups and a really interesting process of not just going to a workshop and getting shaken up, but going to a different part of the world that will really etch a sketch you in finding the next place that you want to be. We then have Britney come on the line who shares a vulnerable feeling of, “I don’t know where to get stuck,” and the conversation between her masculine and feminine, a bit about absent fatherhood which is affecting her to be able to produce. We give some warm embrace of how she gets to the next level.

097: Leap to Live the Life You Want with Antesa Jensen

Here we are with Antesa Jensen. I’m very excited to have you here. Welcome to the show.


Antesa is the Founder and visionary leading Adventure Awake, as well as co-founder of The Proteus Group. She recently left a twelve-year career working in investment banking industry and a little bit about that to scale and expand Adventure Awake, launch The Proteus Group and fully grow herself into a full-time entrepreneur. I’m really excited to have you on the show. As a fellow seeker who left Corporate America to go on my crazy journey, I’m really happy to hear your story. Let’s start off with what is Adventure Awake? Can you give a synopsis of what that is?

Adventure Awake is a hybrid of coaching and travel. It’s founded on the retreat principle except for it’s a retreat on the go. One of my experiences doing my own personal growth is that a lot of personal growth removes you from reality or from the world in order for you to do the growth that you need to do. What I found is that it makes integration a lot harder when you get home. You’ll have this really incredible experience where there’s a massive amount of transformation and one week will go by afterwards, two weeks will go by, eventually a month and you’re back to the same person that you were before because there isn’t ownership in your daily life. I find that travelling is a really great way to do that if you have someone there to debrief what is happening while you’re on the road. I also incorporate a lot of integration work afterwards.

For a month after a trip, we’ll do a 12-day trip together where I’m one-on-one or in person with a group of people. We take up to six people. We do a lot of pretty intense coaching while on the road. We go to really far off the beaten path, places that are not easy to navigate. Everyone inevitably shifts a lot and then we do group coaching for a month afterwards to say, “How does this thing that you discovered about yourself while you were on the border of Siberia with a reindeer in a tepee fit into your relationship with your mom?” We piece together the pieces so that they can take ownership of the transformation that has occurred and move forward in their life with that as the launching pad for more growth.

Do you custom pick the location to match the participants or do you offer the location and then people sign up to go to Siberia to hang out with the reindeer?

I offer the location first. Two things that are really important are I don’t go anywhere that I have never been. One of the things that I find to be really, really important in terms of teaching people how to be leaders in their own life is the inevitable part where we’re always navigating in the unknown. If I am in any way in an unknown environment as the leader, I don’t get to have that be a communication, like a subtle communication but a communication. I’ll pick a country that I’m interested in that I figure everyone else probably will be too. Usually places that are not standard travel destinations.

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Life You Want: I find to be really important in teaching people how to be leaders in their own life is the inevitable part where we’re always navigating in the unknown.

For me, my version of an Adventure Awake would be to go on a cruise. How to make an adventure out of sitting on a boat for seven days, eating in a buffet? Las Vegas would be another one for me. What is there for me to learn and grow from by being in an environment that is outside of my comfort zone? So far with Adventure Awake, they have to have some access to nature because one of the big things I teach is bringing you back to yourself and nature is a great way to do that. You learn how to hear yourself. A lot of people don’t listen.

They have the voice in their head that’s telling them what to do but they are tuning it out with all of the big grandiose aspects of life: Netflix, Hulu, Amazon, whatever. That’s one piece of it and the other one is that I take people to places that I haven’t been. I work with local tour companies so I’m not doing the logistics piece, I’m just leading. We talk a lot about what it means to not know what the program is. I leave that in the hands of the trustee. I could do a lot of research on the business that I’ll work with, with the tour company. I pick people who are really interested in sustainable and eco-travel who do work with the local communities and are actually engaging with them rather than prostituting them. I leave it in their hands and then my focus goes on the clients. We talk a lot about what does it mean to take up space in a group of people who you don’t know? What does it mean to be a leader when you have no fucking clue what’s happening?

It’s always very profound. The inevitable first steps of the transformation are I’m with a bunch of strangers. We’re travelling in close quarters. No one gets single occupancy. There’s no extra fun that you can get for having your own space. Sometimes we’re sleeping in tents. In Mongolia, we were in teepees and tents for the first eleven days before they had a hotel room. In Jordan, we were in hotels the entire time except for when we were out in Wadi Rum. It depends but we always have people sharing rooms because you learn a lot about yourself when you get into it with other people.

You’re hitting on a lot of interesting topics. One, I assume they’ll have a digital detox as well?

Yeah, we’re usually off the grid.

The familiar cell phone, Facebook, Hulu, Netflix, Twitter, addiction that we’re facing gets cut. Then you also introduce community, which is another interesting piece for us people who are leading more and more isolated lives into the society.

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We can jam on that for sure. I feel very passionately that the internet, Facebook, is a false representation of what connection actually is. Human touch and interaction, learning how to feel the impact that you have on other people is what makes us human. This is particularly important given the rise of artificial intelligence in all of its forms. This is the thing that we need to anchor into now more than ever and there’s a tendency to move away and isolate ourselves in fear of loneliness, but not actually going out and connecting with the people who will teach us how to not feel lonely. We tend to not engage ourselves in environments where we have connection. The true, profound, satiating connection, which only comes from vulnerability and intimacy.

You don’t get vulnerability and intimacy on the internet. It’s not an offering that Facebook has or watching Netflix at home. That’s one of the primary things that happens and within two days of our trips, everyone is very close. It’s always amazing to watch how close people become in such a short period of time. They’ll start not touching each other and sizing each other up and then within 48 hours, they’ve got background stories, they’ve got history. They’re besties for life. By the end of the ten, twelve, fifteen days, however long the trip is, it’s a whole other animal. They’ve experienced something together and that sticks I think for a lifetime.

A couple of questions, I don’t why but I just want to go to the dark side. Do you have a story of a group that hated each other and didn’t get along with each other? Do you have a war story of something that was really profound that blew your mind? I guess there’s one negative side of that and one positive side. What’s a group challenge and what was the great outcome that you remember?

Every single trip, there’s been someone who has been on the verge of a thing. There were a couple of things that happened in Jordan that were really, really good. Jordan was a unique trip because a lot of the people who went actually knew each other before and then there was one who didn’t know everyone, but was related to a person who did. In that, there was a couple with undefined parameters of their relationship and the sister was related to the couple. They’re married now and it’s actually great for them. On that trip, the focus is supposed to be on your own growth. The guy in the couple wanted to have his focus on his own growth and the woman wanted his focus to be on her. They both went into a pretty interesting space where neither of them was getting what they are wanting and they were very, very frustrated. We were out on goat herding in the mountains in this area called Feynan and we’re staying at this beautiful ecolodge. We’ve gotten up early and we’re trudging through. What happens in these groups when someone is not saying a thing that is clearly working them really, really hard is that everyone gets really tired. People are just like, “I’m done. I’m not interested.” This happened multiple times in Jordan because we had powerful people on that trip who had a huge impact on everyone else.

We were up and this man was making us tea and he was making us bread in the dirt. Everyone was just like, “I want to go home and take a nap.” We were in this really incredible environment. We came back down and have a little check-in after everyone finished with the goat herding piece. It was clear that there were a lot of shadowed absent father things going on. We discovered in a really short period of time that every single person on the trip had an absent dad. Either parents are divorced, they either were raised by their mothers or their dad literally were not in the picture. Some disappeared as early as six months and some as late as seven years old. Their fathers were not a part of their experience. When you have an absent dad in your life, a lot of the issues related to your bonding with the masculine or your relationship with the masculine are unconscious, because you don’t know what you’re missing. That’s the resignation piece is, “I don’t really know what I’m missing. That happened so early in my life that I’m not missing out on anything,” but it’s actually not true.

What we ended up doing is starting a reconciliation process that started that day with everyone’s fathers. They went and did a writing exercise after our lunch where we spent a couple of hours doing some deeper work about what reactive feelings come up when we think about our relationships with our dad and how is that playing out for us in our lives today? It came to a culmination the following day where one of the women on the trip who is quite powerful was having a bit of an existential crisis where she was just saying, “I’m fine,” but it was very clear that she wasn’t fine.

Fucked up, insecure, neurotic and emotional?

Yeah. We were in Petra. It’s Seven Wonders of the World. It’s this massive, I think it’s around 42-square kilometers. It’s a huge space. You spend the entire day there. It’s not something you just go for an hour and then leave. We were there and it was very clear that she wasn’t fine and everyone was just moving around and again, people were really, really tired. They were knocked out by noon and they were all like, “I want to go home.” I was like, “We are not leaving.” We ended up breaking the group up into two groups and doing small coaching circles in cafés in Petra and working through reactive behavior and how that manifest in our lives. What does it look like? How are we actually preventing ourselves from having the very thing that we want when we’re in a state of reaction and all of the reactivity that comes back around the masculine for us?

I had the couple who are at this point, they’re not even talking to each other. The other person went off somewhere. In a span of an hour and a half, all of a sudden everyone had energy again and we ended up staying there until 8:00 at night riding donkeys up to the Monastery and exploring and having an amazing time because the fatigue was not fatigue. It was spiritual exhaustion from being in fight mode. You’d be amazed with the things that come out of people’s mouths, when people feel unsafe or they feel like their needs are not being met, those are the big ones is like, “People aren’t looking out for my needs but I’m not going to ask for them because it’s up to them to know.” Sometimes it’s playing out in a super, super unconscious level. We dismantled a lot of that in that trip, which was really powerful. By the end of the trip, their faces changed. The clarity in their face was unbelievable. One of the guys grew a beard that everyone all of a sudden started noticing him and he had a lot of clarity at the end of the trip that he didn’t have before. It was really beautiful to watch them go through that shift and start to have some gratitude for their willingness to buy in. I think it’s easy going to that trip and be like, “Do me. Come transform me.” The big takeaway I think on that trip was you have to be willing to show up and buy in and do the work to move through those really tough spots where you normally have a lot of resistance.

TL 097 | Life You Want

Life You Want: You have to be willing to show up and buy in and do the work to move through those really tough spots where you normally have a lot of resistance.

Your job is mostly tour guide. It’s total improvisation. You don’t really have a set plan. It’s really feeling what’s going on with the group.

We have an itinerary. I plan the itinerary based on who’s there. I will pick the country. Then when people start to sign up, I become clearer about what is going to be the appropriate thing to do on that trip for that group of people. You’d be surprised that a lot of people who want to go to a specific place are working on a lot of the same issues. It was not surprising to me that everyone had a daddy issue in Jordan. Jordan is a place with a lot of masculine dominance. You really feel it when you get there. Women are treated differently than they are in Western cultures and men are treated differently than in Western cultures. You, not totally consciously, start to become aware of the difference in power dynamics between the masculine and the feminine and we knew going in that there were something related to that.

In Mongolia, we were not going to do the trip that we decided that we ended up doing because it was intense. The people that we brought were relatively outdoorsy. We decided that they could handle some of the more intense things that we did. We did a 90-kilometer horseback ride up into the Siberian mountains to spend three days with shamans. You have to be somewhat physically fit in order to do that. Having experience riding horses is also really helpful. We knew that was the case. I’m like an inward guide. I’m their, “What’s happening for you on the inside that is being reflected to you out here and I’m helping bridge that gap,” so that people start to have agency in their lives. They start to understand that the world is a mirror for them and use it and not be at the mercy of it. Start to recognize that we would not be here and you would not see this tree in this particular way if it did not exist in you. It would be outside of your capacity to see it. We start pairing those things together. The inside parts of you to the outside world so that you can start to see that there are no coincidences. This is not an accident that you ended up here. You made a choice. You’re making choices every day. We have that sovereignty already.

What’s a pragmatic first step if they want to change their life? What is the first thing that you recommend? It’s a big leap to go on a twelve-day horseback riding, shaman, visiting Petra, hanging out. That’s a big thing. How do you coach people through the first step? “I know things aren’t working how I want them to go but I want to change.” What’s the first step?

It’s different with every single person based on where they are in their lives. People who have never travelled before, who have never done personal growth, need smaller steps so they can start to own their move towards living a life where they are making every single choice for their day. They don’t have to do things they get to. That’s a huge shift for a lot of people because a lot of people will enter into their lives and say, “I have my job. I have my kids. I have my husband. I have my education,” or whatever it is and then they’re at the mercy of that piece. The rest of their life is lived in compensation for the parts of their life that they claim they’re not making a choice. Awareness around how we are actually at all times making choices and some of our choices we make out of fear is often the first step. It’s like, “I’ve chosen to keep a full-time job and I’ve chosen to stay with my husband because I’m afraid of being alone. I’m afraid of being poor. I’m afraid of not having a life that has any meaning. I’m afraid of becoming lonely. I’m afraid of whatever.” Awareness around that piece is actually really important.

Then there people who are farther along who have done lots of personal growth but they’ve never traveled. They don’t know what it’s like to truly be outside of their comfort zone because ultimately, there are a lot of people who go from the indoctrinated society of the 3D world of Amazon and Hulu and Netflix. Then they switch over to the indoctrinated society of the personal growth world where they’re around a bunch of people who are really, really comfortable for them, who are speaking the same language and who are claiming that they’re on this growth journey but they are also not uncomfortable. In neither cases, there will be growth in both places, but you don’t necessarily get to the other realms of the growth by staying comfortable in your personal growth environment either. Inevitably there’s a point at which breaking away from that to continue your growth and not stay safe there that can be a huge edge for a lot of people. There’s a lot of familiarity that we get really, really used to and not necessarily conscious of our own journeys. That is where some of the bigger choices have to be made is like, “Do I part ways with people who I love? Who I respect? Who are no longer serving the direction or the trajectory that I’m in to go off and do something big?” It depends on the person for sure.

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Let’s bring Britney on the line. Let’s see if we can find out what her first step is. Hello, Britney.


How can we make this most optimal for you? How can we best serve you?

The thing that fills up for me came up in something that Antesa said, which is in terms of my inner masculine, I feel incapable of being the masculine parent to myself which shows up in just a general feeling incapable of being responsible for myself, incapable of being financially solvent of doing what feels like oppressive heavy lifting in terms of tasks and organization and having energy or motivation or anything that feels like an effort. I feel paralyzed in that place right now and really, really, really collapsed.

Can you give a concrete example?

Yeah. I have three different really important things that require a lot of paperwork on my end. One of them is including writing a business plan and creating a website and taking this online exam and studying for it. I just feel paralyzed. All I want to do is take a nap forever. That’s how I feel. For me, I had an absent father and I’m also incredibly self-aware which is actually not for my own benefit because I can have all the awareness and still not make any changes and sit and blame my dad still even though that was a long time ago. There’s just this general lack of feeling like I can take responsibility for myself. Part of it is I want to stay still unconsciously waiting to be rescued but I’m aware of it so it’s not unconscious.

First of all, the paperwork associated with business plans and taxes and all these other things, I think it’s overwhelming for a lot of people. One of the things that I’m curious to know about is if you’re aware what comes before paralysis for you?


That is a thing I would say to explore. When you feel overwhelmed, how does it feel in your body?

I cry. I shutdown. I overeat. I get really anxious. I’m tight in my stomach. I have a feeling of panic and dread, especially dread. It feels like I’m trying to push a boulder uphill while I have this 2,000-pound heavy blanket on me. That’s what it feels like. Just thick and heavy and achy and challenging.

What do you tell yourself when you feel all those things about you?

That I should be able to do it.

TL 097 | Life You Want

Life You Want: The moment we go into a should, we are actually in the process of rejecting the experience that we’re having right now.

We can just stop right there. The word should is a good one. I don’t know that you’re the only one that experiences, “I should be doing this differently.” The moment we go into a should, we are actually in the process of rejecting the experience that we’re having right now, which makes it more painful. It makes it last longer and it also makes the sensation get higher because ultimately, what we really wants to happen is we want to feel the overwhelm. If we don’t feel the overwhelm, we don’t actually move through it and recognize how it’s serving us so that we can become more familiar with our environment. You tell yourself that you shouldn’t be feeling this way, right?

Yeah, like I should be able to do all of these required things. There’s something wrong with me and I should be able to do it. Everyone else has these productive lives and I do not.

What else does your should say?

I should get my shit together.

What else?

I should just be able to do it. It should just be easy because other people can do it.

Comparing yourselves to other people. That’s a great one. What other shoulds are in there?

I don’t know but I feel like I could cry. That’s the thing.

You can.

I feel like this is something that happens where I just go into a little girl mode.

How old do you feel right now?

Like two. I’m supposed to do these things that I can’t do and be responsible for things. Even though I’m 42 years old, I should be able to do them but it feels like the little one is still, “Nope. That’s too much for me, I can’t do it.”

You said your dad was absent. Did that happen around two?

Yeah. My parents divorced when I was two and half or three. I think he was completely absent even when he was present.

This could super easily exist prior to you even being born. I know for me, I’ve had generational belief systems that I’ve had to dismantle that have nothing to do with my life but have every much existed in my life.

Part of this just felt like in the last few weeks, I made a family tree and I found all these men in the family tree especially on my dad’s side who I don’t know but when I feel into them, it’s just oppressing women and just all absent to the women in their lives. I feel like I’m trying to trudge through this thing while they are all holding me back.

They are not holding you back anymore now; you are, because you’ve taken on the role of oppressive man in your life. That should is your oppressive man.

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It’s also the absent man. She has her own absent masculine.

It’s paralyzing in this place. While I don’t want to sit and blame all of this stuff and I want to be able to take responsibility, I feel incapable of moving myself forward. Even I try like little teeny tiny baby steps and it’s like, “I can do two and then I’m done.”

Then you start with two. One of the things I would highly recommend is that you run the shoulds out loud. Then you get to make a choice at the end of that where you get to choose to be in approval of how you feel. If you, at any point, cannot acknowledge your emotional experience and your physical experience, you’re going to do everything in your power to unconsciously suppress the sensations that are coming up and it’s going to paralyze you. That is a guarantee. That will be what happens. That’s what happens for a lot of people is they’re unconsciously or at least not verbally aware or they don’t have the language or they don’t have the sensation, understanding. For you, you’re very good at being able to say, “I feel constricted in my belly.” What’s going on in their belly?

There are a lot of things, areas of our lives where we freeze. What’s associated with that part of my body and then it’s a question of chicken or the egg, “Is it my emotional or 3D experience that’s causing my belly to constrict? My belly is constricting and I’m creating an entire story around it.” Slowing down there is essential in order for you to not get paralyzed. You’re not going to actually move through and become comfortable with the sensation of overwhelm if you do everything you can to suppress or ignore overwhelm on a physical and on an emotional level.

Stopping and saying, “I feel overwhelmed right now. What am I telling myself that has me feel overwhelmed? I’m comparing myself to all of these people in my life or not in my life.” That’s not how it works. Once you slow down there, you can actually have that conversation with yourself where you recognize that you aren’t everyone else. You are a unique, beautiful human being who is perfectly capable and your needs are not the same. You can’t live my life or Rob’s life. You have to live your life. We can’t live someone’s life on TV. I think that’s one of the most common misconceptions about life is that there’s this template that everyone should follow and if you don’t fit into that template well, you’re fucked, but there are no templates.

Let me go a different direction as well. You say you’re self-aware and it’s pretty obvious. You understand the basis of it. Have you done childhood wound and going back to regression? Have you done any work in that?

Years and years and years of it.

What does it show you? What does it say?

I don’t matter. That’s the core wound. It’s like I’m not important enough, I don’t matter. Nobody took responsibility for me. My dad didn’t want to take responsibility and so my mom, she stepped into the masculine. She was the breadwinner and she did everything and I saw that and I’m like, “I don’t want that because that looks terrible.”

I’m intimately familiar with that family setup. It goes in stages in my experience. Learning how to nurture yourself is a pretty essential one. If your mom was the breadwinner, she might not have been nurturing herself either and so you didn’t have a model for what that could look like.

I feel like both the masculine and feminine were super fucked. I feel like, “Now, I’m trying to figure that out.” I can do the self-love things and comfort myself and all that, but there’s an action-oriented things. That’s where I feel paralyzed in taking action.

TL 097 | Life You Want

Life You Want: I can do the self-love things and comfort myself and all that, but there’s an action-oriented things. That’s where I feel paralyzed in taking action.

The strangest question just popped to my head is like, do you, underneath it, truly believed that you deserve to be happy?

No. I feel like I’m trying to have this life that nobody else in my family has had. Be a person that’s different than all of my family, conscious and just different. I’m trying to pioneer this new path and it’s a lot fucking emotional lifting for all of these people behind me. I just feel really sensitive to that and I want to say, “Of course, I deserve to be happy.” I don’t know. Sometimes parts of me feel, “I should say, yes.”

We can intellectually know that we deserve to be happy but if at any point below the neck we don’t believe that, that will be a battle. It’s interesting that you talked about emotional lifting. That really makes me think of one of the euphemisms I use a lot in personal growth is a lot like building muscle. If you go to the gym, you don’t start out under a barbell, bench pressing 200 pounds. You start sometimes just with a stick and then you might go up to the barbell. You might put weight on the barbell and then you slowly, over the course of months, will work up to 200 pounds. We have this expectation that once we decide to do something in our minds that we do.

Ultimately where there’s a will, there’s a way. You have to be willing in order to have it happen. With weight loss, you don’t just lose 50 pounds in a week. The healthy way to lose weight is to lose one to two pounds a week over the course of time to keep it off that way. If you eventually lose weight and you haven’t fixed the belief systems that kept you fat and had the shield up in the first place, you’re going to gain the weight again. Ultimately, there’s a point at which you have to build the muscle of self-worth.

I’ve been at a place in my life where unconsciously and then my body know that I have the worth. I used to not believe that I deserved it and then a lot of my life was out of spite. Successful in spite of a lot of things and now I know that I’m worth it and there’s a whole other level of things to look at. When you know that you’re worth it and things are not in alignment with that worth and it brings up a whole, and you know this process never stops but you are always building this muscle and you do have to start small. When you go to the gym, you’ve got to start somewhere and not everybody starts in the same place.

Also that two-year-old deserves to be loved, to go back. I hear you’ve been doing a lot of childhood wound work. We can fix up the 42 but it really is the two-year-old that truly has to know that she deserves to be loved by both the masculine and the feminine truly 100%. I’m sorry you’re robbed of that as an actual two-year-old but you can go back because that’s where the core is. The paperwork and the websites and the tests, that’s important, but really it comes down to that belief that you are worthy not only of love but of success in all that you want.

Inner child work is essential. I agree with Rob and it sounds like you have been doing that work. as the path is spiral. We talked a lot about that and it’s not deciding to just go into inner child work and hush out all of the events of your childhood with one certain capacity for consciousness will have you see a great number of things in your childhood that can heal. Invariably, you’ll get further down the path, more things will become available to you that you’ll see in your childhood. This healing process, it’s not something you just check off a list and then you no longer have to do inner child work. I had two explicit memories from my childhood. One from when I was five and one from when I was twelve.

On a new level, I reconnected with those two age groups for a specific emotional experience that I was having. I’ve been doing this for a long time. I’m 35 years old. I’ve done a lot of inner child work before, a lot of nurturing. With regard to consciousness surrounding new emotional experience, new physical association without emotional experience, I remembered things that I couldn’t have possibly remembered. It could be that you’ve spent years doing inner child work and that it will always be appropriate using that specific tool kit to go back to specific ages where you felt this way. That’s one of the reasons why I asked you how old you felt.

The challenge of looking into emotional experiences that I feel like they’re from earlier than around four years old, is that a lot of those experiences exist pre-verbally, which is to say that all you’ve got is actually the physically sensation. This is where somatic intelligence comes into play where emotional intelligence doesn’t quite cover it. Learning how to sit and feel in your body and stay with the sensation and then let it move and evolve. You can actually learn how to unblock energetic experiences or freezing or fight modes happening in your body just by putting your subtle but explicit awareness on that part of your body without needing to explain it or make any sense of it at all.

That’s probably the hardest thing for me is the somatic pieces like being in my body.

We’re not taught to do that. No one is taught to do that. It’s a rare skill. If I were to leave you with one nugget, it would be drop off the story, drop off the should, potentially even drop off the particular emotion and really tune into, Where in my body do I feel fuzzy, constricted, hot, sharp pain, numbness?” Relax your attention onto that place for two to three minutes because that part of you that’s working at a sub-muscular level, the inner muscles that are really small, usually that’s where we’re saving a lot of our trauma. If you put your attention in that spot, things will start to move.


Any last thoughts, Britney? Thanks so much for being so vulnerable on the show.

No, but my left arm is having a total muscle spasm right now.

Is it in your deltoid?

It’s just twitching and that’s not familiar.

I’m just starting to get into some more of a Chinese medicine five elements parts of where our bodies are. The left side is your feminine and the deltoid I think is related to the shoulds, also related to your spleen I think.

Thanks, guys.

Thanks so much for being courageous and coming out. That was a powerful experience, thank you. How do people find out more about you? How do they find about Adventure Awake? What would you like to offer the audience?

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There are two things that are coming up. A lot of actually what ended up just talking to Britney about, your intention always gears how conversations go. A lot of my attention is on awareness of self. It’s something that I noticed that we don’t give ourselves. We’re not taught. We don’t know how to do it. Through meditation, we can start to become more aware of our bodies. I actually decided to do a 30-day meditation intension setting and reading ten-minute practice via Facebook Live. I’ll be doing them at 8AM everyday for 30 days and I would love for people to join for them to opt in to their own meditation practice. You can do it at any point in time of the day. A lot of people say, “If I didn’t meditate in the morning, I can’t do it at all.” If you’re in a different time zone, you can do it whenever. That’s a free offering that I have. For me, I would just love to be able to offer the gift of giving people an opportunity or time to become more aware of themselves. That first step of awareness is really key.

A bigger leap is an Adventure Awake trip. We’re going to Greenland in February 6th through the15th, 2018. We’ll be doing dog-sledding, seeing the Northern Lights. I’ve planned it around the moon schedules so there’s a higher likelihood of seeing the Northern Lights. We’ve got a great group of people and we cap out at six. You have to go through an interview process in order to come on those trips. You can reach out to me at my website,, to hear more. We can have a fifteen-minute informational call or hop right into the interview and see you if you’re sure that you want to go to Greenland and have this really amazing transformational experience and we can have that. You can find me on Facebook @Antesa. Through that you’ll see my meditation event and you can reach out to me there and follow me. I post lots of stuff on Facebook too so it’s also a good place to connect.

Thank you so much for being on the show. I appreciate it.

Thank you.

Thank you so much Antesa for being on the show and sharing your gifts and talking about Adventure Awake, which is tempting. We may need a couple stuff, that would be fun to explore but you’ll never know. I’m really grateful as always for the listeners coming on and new things happening, working on a membership program for 2018. A new website coming up and so many things happening and still working on the books. Check us out at TuffLove.Live for all of it. Thank you much. Go forth, be free, find out what you want to change, connect to that masculine and good luck to all of you. Thank you so much. Take care.

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About Antesa Jensen

Expert and leader in the newly established transformational travel industry, Antesa Jensen is the founder and visionary leading Adventure Awake. Specialized in emotional and somatic intelligence, with extensive training in both domains, as well as 12 years of professional experience in the financial industry, she uses these essential and powerful “soft skills” in the realm of money management, mindset disruption, recognizing potential, authentic communication, transformation, as well as through leadership and personal development training.

Whether it’s on the road with a backpack and small groups of clients seeking bespoke transformational travel experiences, through one-on-one coaching and mentorship programs with individual clients, or on the front lines in corporate environments where she is best known for using her sight to swiftly dissect entropy – from financial and HR processes to corporate culture – she is committed to tapping into the underlying value available in all circumstances.

Antesa has been traveling the far reaches of the world for 18 years and feels most at peace sitting on edges of cliffs and scaling steep mountain ridges.

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